Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is like hugging a cactus; the tighter you hold on, the more it hurts. They say when someone loves you, they don’t have to say it… You can tell by the way they treat you but then it’s not in all cases… Check out these 2 scenarios
I’m gonna narrate these scenarios from 2 point of views.
Firstly, From a Ladies point of view : Things can be very confusing when you find yourself at this spot, your previous relationship probably didn’t end well and then after some time you meet this guy and at the beginning you felt the spark and it felt as if you’ve met “The one”. You guys meet, you click, one thing leads to another and you hook up… The going is just great and everything is cool and you start falling for him but then he wouldn’t ask you to be his Woman, months pass and still nothing and then it hits you that this guy isn’t ready for serious commitment. Of course most ladies don’t just have casual flings, at some point emotions will get in the way and at this point you’ve fallen so deep that it’s hard to let go.
Now from a Guy’s Point of View : You meet this lady and she’s just everything you desire and want in a woman. You guys start talking and getting close, she gives off all the right signals that she’s interested in you and all.. You make your intentions known to her but then she says she’s not ready for a relationship and you decide to wait, somewhere along the line you find out that you’ve been friendzoned and she now refers to you as “Bestie” and at that point you feel asking her out might ruin the friendship you both share, you can’t just up and leave but staying isn’t an option either.
It hurts. Trust me, I know! But when you find yourself in such a fix, you can’t settle there forever. You have to pick yourself up and move on. You should know this isn’t your fault. If they don’t see the awesome person in front of them with so much love to give, why wallow in self-pity? Here are expert tips on how to deal with the situation and move on!
- Accept the fact that this person doesn’t need you
Coming to terms with this reality better places you in a position where you can deal with your self-worth. Many times, we find ourselves in tough moments because we are not ready to accept the truth. Once you tell yourself the truth and accept it, it becomes easier for your mind to detach and from there the heart can pick up the signal and begin to withdraw as well.
- Look for friends who have gone through similar situations before.
It helps when you have a friend who has been there to help you navigate this murky water of unreturned love. Open up to people you trust, they can help you keep your emotions in check.
- Treat yourself
You deserve better. Take care of yourself, take care of your skin. Enjoy. Remember that the first step to feeling good is looking good. Take yourself out and spoil you. There’s nothing more than self love, get to fall in love with yourself and when the right person shows up, they will love you for all you’re worth and you won’t have to be scared of loosing yourself in the name of Love.
- Stop hanging on to the dream
I know it’s easier said than done but attributing something disgusting to the person might help turn you off. Just find something you hate about him or her. It might be one awkward character that you can’t deal with, how they dress up or how they walk, the shape of his or her nose, their breath, the nature of their Job… On extreme measures probably where they are from… There must be something, one thing you won’t like about someone.
- Don’t get angry
Try to understand his or her preference. Maybe you just aren’t his type, which is okay. You can always love someone from afar but please don’t lose yourself because of someone else. You deserve better. You’re Enough!
I hope this helped. Have an Amazing day ahead.
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