Texting is the most convenient form of communication in a long distant relationship because everyone pretty much has their phone within arm’s reach all of the time. It’s a private conversation that keeps you connected with your long distance partner all the time. Therefore, it is very important to do it right. You can just drop a good morning text, let them know you are thinking of them, share memes and emojis.
HERE ARE SEVEN TEXTING TIPS FOR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS THAT WILL HELP YOU.
DON’T GET NEEDY:
Don’t text your partner all the time. This may show you off as needy especially if they are not responding as actively as you are. Take time to understand and adjust to both your needs. There is a fine line between asking what you want and demanding them to do what you want. It’s easier when you are both busy with work or business so you only get to text at your free time.
You can text them that you are missing them. But don’t get angry if they don’t reply fast enough. Wait for their response before you text some more.
Don’t keep fighting with them for not texting back unless you actually feel they are doing it on purpose. Being in different places also mean having different schedules. They must have genuine reasons to not text you back quickly. Understanding them is difficult from a distance but have faith in them. Don’t make them feel that you doubt them.
When you are in a challenging situation in a relationship, you constantly evaluate if it is worth the effort. And thus your constant nudging could have a negative effect on your long distance relationship. Learn to build trust and have a little faith in each other.
When you are far away from your partner, it seems like you are losing the flame of the relationship. This can push you apart. To keep the relationship lively and romantic, send them an out of ordinary text, compliment or tease them. It could be as simple as texting them at a different time than usual, you can as well write a note then snap and send, drop a song or do a VN(Voice note), It assures them that you care about them and are constantly making effort in this relationship.
Again, the same rule applies though. Make sure you are not the only one doing it and your partner is also interested.
DO NOT FIGHT ON TEXT:
This is one thing that should be avoided in a long distance relationship. Fighting on text sends the wrong signals, especially for the fact that you aren’t hearing their voice, one might be speaking in a not very harsh voice but then because you can’t hear or see their facial expressions you read the message in a different tone.
Somehow try to postpone a fight until you can get on phone or Skype or Facetime. Texting is a very impersonal way of communicating and thus it is very easy to misinterpret a text. Usually, when you are talking on phone or video chat, you can read the person’s expressions or tone of voice and understand them better.
Also, texts can be saved. Things said in anger are ugly and re-reading those things can make the negative thoughts linger in your mind for a longer time.
GOOD NIGHT AND GOOD MORNING TEXTS:
These small words are powerful. A quick and short message to show that you are thinking of your partner. It’s like starting and ending your day with your partner in mind. It can make your loved one’s day.
CHANGE IT UP:
A video (or snap), a photo, or just a simple emoji might put a smile on your loved one’s face. You can also try texting links to relevant articles or videos that your long distance partner might enjoy. Maybe even start a game for the day? Text only song lyrics each other to describe your day. Text only movie titles to have a conversation. Change your texts up so the communication does not get stale.
As I said, texts can be misinterpreted more often than not. If the message is not clear, don’t assume anything but consider having a detailed discussion about it. If the matter is more sensitive, wait until you meet in person or on video chat. This avoids unnecessary misunderstanding and fights.
REMEMBER THE IMPORTANT AND UNIMPORTANT EVENTS:
Many times we text and forget what we talked about. Follow up on what’s going on in their lives; big or small like an important presentation or a small party with colleagues. Make them feel that you are interested in their life and and you care about them and what they do is important to you.
Ask them simple things like how was their day or send them a picture of something beautiful you saw. Make them feel more involved in your lives. They would really appreciate that.
Most of the long distance relationship fights occur via text. And it is fast. Think before you text and avoid texting when you are angry. This is a really powerful tool that can enhance or ruin your relationship. Plan meets, send each other gifts or cards.
It takes effort to be able to overcome temptations in a long distance relationship and if you do not make a decision to stay faithful and constantly work on it, it’s bound to fail so before you get involved in a long distance relationship, be sure that you’re ready to work at it every single day and stay committed to loving each other no matter how hard it gets. keep believing in your long distance love.