WRITTEN BY KAUNA HOPE BAKO
Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child and not exclusively to the biological relationship.
Do you know Parenting is a skill and not a product of chance? It doesnt hurt to pick up child psychology books, or child development books, better still try e-books. Parenting requires intentional efforts to instill the much needed values a child requires to be a responsible member of a society, to enable him/her make sound descions and informed choices in the future and also lead a meaningful healthy lifestyle. Sadly, sharing experiences alone doesn’t cut it, you may likely learn other parents errors too.
Good news though,you get to learn on the job only if you want it!
Do you know that doing everything for a child, though as an expression of love and protection can make him or her grow into an overly dependent teenager or adult who cannot initiate, stand on their own, and make rational decisions for themselves? They may often end up in toxic relationships with people who just want to take advantage of their dependence and subservience.
Show me an entitled adult, with a deserving attitude and no respect for boundaries and I will tell you about a parent whose expression of love was allowing a child have his way all the time, obliging their tantrums and whimsical requests and providing for their every petty need.
I have noticed the error of doing everything for a child manifest greatly in raising the girl child.
Parents are often caught over protecting and always stepping in to take care of a girl because of her perceived weakness and vulnerability.
The boy is often made to do all the hard work, he is asked to forfeit in a case of limited resources or share forcefully, and often burdened with the task of responsibility and being the family protector. Results to him becoming tough and independent.
But the girl? Mostly become a reciever,entitled, stingy, unhealthily dependent and find it hard being on her own. (From Daddys house to hubby’s house).
What I’m saying in essence is that we should try as much as we can to equip ourselves and be ready both mentally, financially and physically to receive and raise Kids who will impact the society and Nation at large. We should learn how to parent right and most importantly to equip them with the right attitude to become responsible and admirable adults when we can no longer be there to guide them… Nice day yʼall.
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Spot on. We need to keep talking about these truths. They will remind us to do better than our parents did. They tried, no doubt about that, but it could have been better. We’ll do better. Great piece!
True words… Thanks Shyim