These days people see long distance relationships as too much work, I choose to believe that it is not, as long as you’re committed to making it work. I personally might not be able to date someone who’s outside the country because it will be a lot harder as you can’t get to see them just anytime but then if they are not in the same state with you, I do not see any reason why you wouldn’t want to give it a chance, unless of course you do not actually like the person in question and wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with them.
Research has even shown that long distant couples tend to have the same or more satisfaction in their relationships than couples who are geographically close, and higher levels of dedication to their relationships and less feelings of being trapped.
One of the greatest benefits is that you do a lot more talking and learning about each other, since you spend more time having conversations than you might if you were sitting side-by-side watching Netflix, or out running errands or doing activities together.
I was once in a long distance relationship myself and I would say I did enjoy it even though it went south eventually but the time apart, the distance somehow makes the relationship strong. I like having the time to miss him, to remember why I wanted to be with him in the first place.
And I’m not alone. I hear success stories about long-distance relationships on a regular basis. Some of the happiest couples I know are in long-distance relationship some or all of the time. Most experts even think it’s really healthy for a relationship to begin when two people live in different places.
There’s also the benefit of cultivating your own friendships and interests, so that you’re more interesting people and have more to bring to the relationship. You have more alone time than people who live in the same city do, so you’re very excited to see each other and really value the time you do spend together.
Of course, long-distance relationship problems exist, but if two people are committed to making it work the outlook isn’t bleak.
Long-distance relationships are easier now than ever because we have so many ways to stay connected thanks to technology.
A lot of the glue of a relationship is in the day-to-day minutia, and with technology, you can share that in real time, instantaneously, with photos, texts and Video calls. That’s very different from letters or long-distance phone calls,
it’s important to share details with your partner instead of just generalizations. For example, don’t just say, “I went to this dinner and had a great time.” Instead, really delve into the details. Talk about who was there, what you talked about, what you ate and how it made you feel. It will make the everyday come alive for your partner even though they weren’t there to witness it. Strong communication is very vital in long distance relationship.
You can also do stuff together even though you’re apart.
Just because you aren’t physically in the same place doesn’t mean you can’t have fun together. Plan a movie night together via Skype where you can watch the same movie even when you’re in different places, also you can play online quizzes or games together, and discussing the results to spark new and interesting conversations.
You can make fun Plans as well, Delight in the details of what the two of you will do the next time you see each other. Plan your next weekend together. Make it a ritual to talk about the fun things you’ll do together.
Set Clear Rules and Boundaries.
Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want the other person to see on social media. This is very important, you should do you best to stay out of situations that might make your long-distance partner feel uncomfortable or threatened — within reason. You don’t need to check in before or get approval for every social interaction with your partner, but you should set clear boundaries and rules that work for the both of you and adhere to them.
Stick to a Schedule.
Timing matters, especially when your time together is precious. To keep long-distance relationships going you need to actually see one another, know when you’re going to see each other and be able to trust that the other person will stick to that plan.
You don’t want to go long periods of time without seeing each other.
Note that all relationships take time and effort to make them work and long distance relationships are no different. If you’re committed to a long distance relationship you need to commit to the work that goes with it. If either one of you begins taking the other for granted or begins ignoring messages and calls and stops giving the time, attention and care you used to give at the beginning, the relationship is definitely going to suffer. Love doesn’t need words when you can’t show it, but when you’re apart you have to say it. Even a simple good morning and good night message makes someone feel loved and wanted. It shows they are the first and last thing on your mind and that is one of the things that makes a relationship strong. Never take your loved one for granted just because they said they’d always be there… Never ignore them for long. No one waits forever if they don’t feel loved, no matter how much they may love you … Everyone gets tired of being ignored and someday while waiting for you, they may just stumble across someone who will give them everything they deserve. Think how devastated you will feel if they moved on without you, leaving you only with your regrets..