Relationships need to grow and evolve to become perfect.
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. However, many people aren’t certain what they should be communicating about. Spend time talking about a variety of topics to grow together as a couple and to prevent your relationship from becoming stale.
Keeping a relationship open and free, so that both parties can comfortably talk about what’s on their mind, is one of the key factors of being in a healthy relationship. Not just about the talking though, you should be willing to put in the work as well.
Matter of fact, couples whose relationship are healthy and successful, talk about these 10 things.
And you should too if you want yours to be like that.
Daily Individual lives.
To prevent your relationship from going stale, you can both swap stories about your daily activities.
Like what happened at work, what you had for lunch, what happened to you on your way to work or back. If it is anything eventful. How you intend to spend the rest of your day when you get home and stuff like that.
Movies and TV
Movies and television shows are perfect conversation makers for all couples. They provide for hours of gossiping and interesting conversations with a fresh perspective every day.
Crushes and second glances
Do you think someone in your workplace is attractive? Or is someone from the third floor trying to catch your attention by trying to flirt with you? Talk to your partner about it. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but these conversations can actually bring both of you more closer than ever before and even eliminate insecurities.
Let them in on your saving and spending habits. How you plan to manage your budget and reach your saving targets. Let them help you if you ain’t the saving type.
Talk about how feasible it would be if both of you started saving together or invest in a business. Set some financial goals and discuss strategies to help you reach those goals.
Update each other on your emotional growths.
How emotionally mature you have become, how you handle issues differently than you did in the past. This is important as it will help you both bond in a different level. You will also get to know each other’s emotional strengths and weaknesses.
Hobbies and interests
Do you like clubbing, painting or playing games? Talk about it with your partner. Our hobbies and interests change all the time, and keeping a lover in the loop will help both of you understand each other’s likes and dislikes better.
Silence is a beautiful thing in any relationship. Just being able to sit next to each other without feeling awkward or having to worry about what to talk about is a sign of a perfect relationship already.
But then again, are you both being comfortable with each other or just ignoring each other?
Discuss the goals you want to achieve. Do you want to learn how to drive, cook, dance or get a new job? It’s healthy to have individual goals.
Talk about them.
Talk about your spiritual beliefs and values and why you have them.
What you believe in and what you don’t. Be willing to listen to your partner’s beliefs and be open to talking about the similarities and differences in your beliefs without being judgemental.
Get political with your partner. The candidate you voted for and why.
Even your take and predictions for this year’s governance and how it will affect our economy.
Have a political opinion? Talk about it with your partner. You don’t have to agree on politics in order to have a discussion about it. You can learn a lot about your partner if you have a conversation about politics. Any healthy relationship should allow each partner to feel respected enough to share an opinion, even if it opposes the other partner’s opinion.
Set goals you want to achieve as a couple.
Is it investing in a business, volunteering at an NGO or giving to motherless babies? You can also talk about future goals like building a home together. Working together to reach your goal can help you stay close as a couple.
Whatever it is, set that goal with your partner.
How you feel about work, family, education, sex, and friends.
What constitutes moral or immoral to you and what you feel uncomfortable doing because it clashes with your values. It’s important to share your values with one another. Talk about your priorities in life.
Don’t be passive aggressive. When you feel something, let your partner know about it.
Don’t punish them by keeping your mouth shut, but showing you are displeased with them with your actions.
Your partner doesn’t need to know every skeleton in your closet. However, sharing information about your past can be very helpful. Talk about your childhood, past experiences, or obstacles you’ve overcome. You can also share how much you’ve learned and changed over the years.
Daydreaming together can be a great activity in any healthy relationship. Discuss dreams you had as a child, dreams you’ve let go, and dreams you still hold onto.
Whether you’ve got a close relationship with your family or not, talking about family can be important. It can give your partner an inside look at what type of childhood you had as well as what type of relationship you have with your family members. Discuss how you want your family to be different from your family of origin, as well as which aspects you want to adopt.
The Growth and Setback Of Your Relationship
Map out the areas in your relationship that are working well and the aspects that need improvement.
How far you have come as a couple and how you can continue your healthy relationship.
What else should couples in a healthy relationship talk about? We will like to hear your thoughts.
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