Honesty is the best policy. Although this may sound like a cliché, it is an advice worth taking literally!
Honesty is essential in healthy relationships, it is the highest form of intimacy. It has the power to build, empower and grow relationships.
When it comes to dating, honesty from the onset can really benefit your future relationship. Want to know how? Just keep reading.
Being yourself is not always easy – but it’s important!
We all learn in childhood that we shouldn’t lie and we are taught that we won’t get far in life by lying or deceiving others. But it is possible to be dishonest in a subconscious or subtle way. For example, some people create an impression that they are confident and relaxed in order to seem attractive to others. However, sometimes this is just a facade to hide their nervousness. It can be a disappointment to fall in love with someone who is seemingly self-confident and to discover that they are actually insecure and scared. It is easier to accept another’s weaknesses when they are not camouflaged and instead displayed with humility. It’s worthwhile, therefore, to always be yourself and allow yourself to be vulnerable. When you are honest with yourself and with others, disclosing who you really are, others will accept and love the real you.
Let’s start with the first reason. Honesty builds trust.
When we are honest with one another we learn to trust. We don’t have to wonder what is being hidden or kept secret. Naturally we are at ease in our gut because we know the other person cares enough to tell us the truth.
Honesty doesn’t always feel good at the time but we can appreciate it because the person being honest is being vulnerable. They are taking a chance at trusting you with the truth. These people understand that what they could say, has the potential to hurt the relationship. However, they care about you and want a relationship that is built on the truth.
When a relationship is built on truth it opens the door for growth. Which leads me into the second reason to why honesty is a big deal in relationships.
Honesty solves problems…
Anyone who has a successful relationship knows this to be true. When we are in a relationship where two people are allowed to be honest, it gives the relationship a chance to solve problems that come up. Sometimes misunderstandings happen. When we are honest we can work through the misunderstanding, communicate and solve the issue and be done with it. Different perspectives can be frustrating. However, we are all different in our views and can learn how the other person thinks. Honesty grows the mind and heart.
The third reason honesty is important in relationships is that Honesty grows our character.
When we are honest we are holding people accountable for their behavior. It challenges us and encourages us to be a better human being. We become a person that thinks about our choices and how they can help or hurt the relationship and the person we care about.
Honesty gives understanding.
This is so important because it will all around help us understand our past, present and future. When we give honesty it doesn’t necessarily reap understanding right away. But when we have enough people telling us the truth it can be a great place to land. From this place we can begin to understand the situation, who we are and what needs to happen to grow each part of our life.
Honesty gives us freedom.
We are free to be ourselves, when we find ourselves in relationships were we can be honest. We don’t have to worry about working hard to be accepted or appreciated for who we are. Everything is talked about and shared because we care. We don’t have to secretly wonder if the other is annoyed or frustrated because we know they care about us enough to be honest with how they feel about us.
Honesty teaches us.
It teaches us many great lessons. It teaches us how to interact with people and choose our words wisely. Think about it, when a little kid you know says something with an honest heart and it comes out as an insult. They aren’t trying to be mean, well most of them aren’t. They just say the truth without thinking about how their words are going to effect the other.
The more we practice honesty, the more we learn how to be honest and use modesty with our words. We learn through experiences good and bad with those in our lives what honest words are effective in helping us to grow.
Honesty demonstrates genuine love.
Healthy and wholesome families know this to be true. When you love a person, you want to protect them from the evils of the world. We live in a world that isn’t always kind. Some people (any one who is reading this I bet can think of at least one, probably more) seek pleasure at someone else’s expense. Those that love best are super honest because seeing them hurt and damaged is the last thing they want for them.
Communication is the key when it comes to being honest in relationships. It is important to share your concerns with your partner, talking about problems and daring to discuss difficult issues and topics. It can be daunting to criticise your partner, but it is important to point out problems and talk about them openly – trying to avoid any quarrels! It is better to be honest and say something that is possibly hurtful then and there, in order to prevent more serious problems with your partner in the long term..
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