Do you know that you can trigger a man’s desire to commit to just you? Discover how to create that feeling of “you’re the only woman I want” with these five guidelines.
While an initial spark is all it takes for a man to ask you out and crave you sexually, but physical and sexual attraction isn’t enough for him to want to commit to you exclusively. He needs to feel that he can’t wait to make you his and that he can’t stand the thought of seeing you with someone else.
Rather than having “the talk” or giving him ultimatums, wouldn’t it be great if you could create that feeling so that he is the one asking you for a commitment? You can if you practice these things I’m about to teach you:
DON’T keep bringing up the “commitment” talk.
When you feel anxious or worried about where your relationship is headed, it’s hard to resist wanting to know what is on his mind and what he wants from you exactly.
But constantly trying to bring up the discussion about commitment feels stressful to him and he tends to feel like he’s been pressured and that will only make him dig in his heels and retreat, even if he was on the verge of committing all on his own. So, no matter how much you’re dying to know what he’s thinking, resist the temptation to bring up this tender topic.
DON’T try to talk him into it or convincing him.
This will only make you look desperate and needy and you don’t want any of that now, do you?
The more you try to make a case for how great you are as a couple, the more he feels cornered and manipulated. Your reasoning feels like criticism to him and makes him unable to share his true feelings. That’s certainly not the vibe you want to create in a loving relationship.
A man falls in love when he feels like he can make you happy by being himself and sharing the deepest parts of who he is. By rejecting those parts, you make him feel wrong and cause him to protect his true feelings, and his heart, from connecting with yours. This is deep quite alright and you might think that Men ain’t so deep but trust me when I say that they can smell a desperate lady from a mile away and the only reaction to that is to RUN! (It’s a defense mechanism).
DO share your good feelings with him.
When you feel good with a man, let him know! By opening up and sharing your feelings, you allow him to connect to you and the positive experience you are sharing. It makes him feel good that he makes you feel good, happy and satisfied, and he’ll want more of that good stuff.
As you continue to lay a stronger foundation of positive feelings, it’s only natural that he will see you as a necessary and beautiful part of his life, and he’ll want to make sure you stay in it if not forever but for a long period of time.
DO say what you want, with or without him.
Instead of trying to convince him to commit, share your dreams and what you want for your future. For example, “I don’t want to put pressure on the relationship.” ,“I don’t want to try to convince you, or rush you.”, “It feels good to be with you, but I know I want to have a family someday. What do you think?”
These are intelligent questions that can put ideas into his head, sooner than later he is already thinking in that same direction.
When he sees that you are first and foremost committed to yourself and your dreams, he will feel fired up about you. He will appreciate you as having high value and therefore be triggered to want you all to himself.
DO keep your options open.
Dating is a time for you to explore a little and find out what you really want in a relationship. You can’t do this if you close yourself off to other men before you have the commitment you desire. By meeting lots of people, you open yourself up to discovering a truly great match. You also avoid making any one man the center of your world. This is very important cos I learnt this from experience, in the end I got stuck in a situationship that I never planned to be in but eventually I had to take a walk, it was one of the toughest decisions I had to make. Remember, your first commitment is always to you! Learn to look out for yourself first when it comes to things like this.
As you can see, the key to making a man want you all to himself is to be the woman who loves him but doesn’t need him. When he senses that he’s very lucky to have you, he’ll be motivated to seal the deal before another guy gets in there first.
Commitment is a different emotional ball game for men than it is for women so be sure that this is exactly what you want and to some extent you feel safe and secure in whatever it is that’s going on so you won’t end up being with someone who doesn’t deserve you or know your worth. Have a great week ahead and stay safe.