So I was listening to Apostle Johnson Suleman a few weeks back when he was teaching about Choosing a Life Partner and today I want to share with you guys wah I learnt from that teaching… I hope you learn from this too… Here goes nothing…
=> You become who you want to attract.
Stop looking for a partner in somebody, look for a partner in yourself.
As a single person you train yourself.
It’s better to be single and properly prepare to be married than be married and pray to be single.
Seriously, some people think that being Single is a crime and once they ain’t in a relationship, they feel that they are missing out on alot Buh this is a very wrong ideology, being single is the perfect time to reconnect with yourself, find yourself, build yourself, love yourself and do the things that make you happy… You don’t have to put up with any body’s wahala anymore… It’s just you and you alone until you’re ready again to let someone in… A friend once told me that moving into another relationship immediately after you’ve been hurt is the best way to get over a broken heart Buh I bet to disagree… I personally have tried that and it didn’t work for me at all, I ended up leaving the relationship cos I never even loved this person in the first place, it was just a rebound and like most rebounds it will never work especially when you’ve not gotten over an ex, except maybe you ain’t the type that actually love someone with your heart… Buh jumping from one relationship to another is certainly not the best way to handle a heartbreak… Instead stay on your own until you’re ready and you’ve found the one person you’re willing to go all in with once again… Av said this countless of times “Be who you want to attract, you can’t want a good man/woman when you are a bad one yourself, God can’t use a Bad person to bless a Good person na… Again, stop looking for a partner in somebody, look for a partner in yourself.
=> Most people fail in marriage cos they are looking for a husband or a wife… You have to find a Life Partner first and then make him/her your husband or wife. A partner is someone who understands you, someone who’s your friend, someone whom on those days when you feel like the worst husband/wife they still stand by you and encourages you, a partner is your playmate, your gossip mate, your lover… Find someone that you can be able to spend the rest of your life with, do not manage anything, don’t go into that union cos you feel it’s getting late and all your friends are married. Marriage is an institution designed by God for our happiness and Joy, not for sorrows, pains and regrets… Be wise!
=> If you’re conscious of a life partner, you pay attention to details. A marriage you’re not prepared for, even when it comes, you will be confused. Life partners are to Meet the needs of each other. As a Lady, what need can you meet? The real PURPOSE of Eve was not to help Adam stay IN Eden, but to help him succeed outside Eden. Eve was a journey partner for reconciliation, to help Adam come back to Him.
There are certain needs as a Man that you can meet.
Most people don’t prepare for marriage, they prepare for wedding. When you’re prepared for something you don’t pray for it, it comes to you…
=> You need a quality relationship with God, until you find God don’t look for a partner, build your spiritual life first cos without God in your life you can’t meet someone’s need. Be at peace with God and he will give you something good.
Your relationship with God sponsors your confidence.
If you have confidence in God, you know who you are. If someone says you’re too short for them tell them Yea, that’s the way God made you and he also made someone out there that would appreciate that height. By the way, Being short is relative, a short man in Nigeria is a tall man in South Korea😂😂. When you have confidence in God it boosts your esteem and helps you to be sensitive, it opens your eyes to see characters you can’t handle in the future. Don’t fall in love with nobody until you fall in love with God. Don’t allow your heart to be broken, for the ladies, don’t put your heart until he puts a ring on your finger. Yes, I said it… Do not be deceived, someone who wants to marry you will go to any length to keep you in their lives, you won’t even have to struggle about anything or with anybody…
=> Knowledge, Matt 19:4 says “And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female” The crisis in marriage is because you’ve not read, what keeps people together is Knowledge. You acquire knowledge when you’re single.1 Peter 3:7 “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered” Your spouse is your answered prayer o, imagine not treating her right, all the kabashing it’s a total waste of time…. If you don’t read, you won’t know.. Acquire Knowledge
=>Appearance : Some people are looking very cute but very stupid, bring out your feminism as a lady, even if you don’t like heels, practice in your closest. As a young Man don’t sound like a woman, Sound like a Man. Knowledge in how to dress both Male and Female. Physical appearance matters. You don’t need to dress expensive to be appreciated, it’s not what you’re wearing, it’s the carriage. It’s not teeth that smells, it’s the tongue that smells, wash your mouth well… Bible says you’re a Saint not a smell. Have Knowledge of the feminine gender as a man and knowledge of the male gender as a woman, that way its easier to deal with the opposite sex…
Finally… Ladies, remember this it’s “HE” that findeth and not “SHE” that findeth… Do not go finding him, Let him find you…
You can check out other related posts below to get more enlightened…
=>Shopping in Christ
=> Attracting a good man
=> This thing called Marriage
=> What do men think
=> Marry your mate
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